This is a comment on an As We Forgive Post. I see this as freedom--to be able to forgive and yet still acknowledge reconciliation may not be possible. She writes:
I have to say forgiveness is much easier than reconciliation!
But for a long time I thought I couldn't forgive without the reconciliation. I couldn't have reconciliation with my grandfather he died years ago. But why would I want reconciliation with my mother who always pointed the finger at me and denied ever doing anything wrong?
In fact the one time I did see her, as an adult, she wouldn't even speak to me and then told everyone (according to my grandmother who wasn't there) that I was rude to her. Rude, I was shaking in fear of just being in the same room as her. I said hello, so it's not like I completely ignored her. No I didn't say much after that, whether it was to her or anyone else at the house, but I don't feel I was rude towards her.
That was 15 years ago and sadly, the thought of being in the same room as her still scares me. I also wouldn't trust her around my girls; if she wasn't afraid of hitting me she won't be afraid to hit them. Based on her view of things she'd see them as an exact image of me; all the more reason I'm sure she wouldn't be afraid to hit them if she felt so inclined to do so.Everyone talks about forgiving and reconciling but there are just some people you can forgive, with God's help, but you can't reconcile and have a relationship with them.
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Mary here. On Good Friday, let's remember the beauty of this: Jesus died on the cross to shoulder all these griefs, these struggles to forgive, the sin of others against us and the sin of us against others and a holy God. Freedom comes in knowing that.
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One of the most painful things in life is not being reconciled with the people who brought you into the world. I don't know that the ache ever leaves. Thank God that He sends other mothers and fathers to fill the hole.
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