From Anonymous:
I am married to a christian man who has been cheerless and has told me over and over he isn't interested in hearing my hopes, dreams, or how my day is. Recently I found out he has put us into incredible debt. As a direct result, we have to sell our house to pay these bills. I was within a few years of retirement and now I have to work many more years.
Even though I am a Christian I decided to leave my husband and begin again on my own and grab some happiness before I die. Many understand..others do not. My husband asks how I can call myself a christian and file for divorce. Never mind what he has put us through. What he says has hurt my prayer life and damaged my relationship with God. BUT I am determined to recover myself financially, spiritually and emotionally. I am a Christian. And I am getting a divorce.
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Your story hits very close to my heart. My in-laws are dealing with this exact issue. He is verbally abusive and has made multiple purchases without the knowledge or consent of my mother-in-law, who is the only one still working.
She has never been a perfect Christian,wife, or mother, nor claims to ever have been so.
Outsiders looking in say "she deserves it." I cant't imagine saying that about anyone in her situation.
My heart aches for her, and for you. I am so sorry you are going through this.
Apparently finding healing through God and His mighty miracles for broken marriages is not Mary DeMuth's idea of "good advice" for people on the verge of divorce or anyone else who reads this blog since she deleted my comment regarding this post, written with great compassion for your pain because I've felt that same pain. Buy the book "Love and Respect", Mary. You'll read about marriage after marriage, all on the brink of divorce--some even after divorce papers were signed--that show that God CAN and WILL heal marriages. This woman's marriage, torn by neglect and financial mess, CAN be saved. It's too bad you don't believe that. If the purpose of your blog is simply to post the problem and not the solution, you should make that clear.
Mary, please accept my apology for being angry that you removed my comment. I do believe that you have faith in God's healing powers. This is your blog and you can certainly manage it in the way you see fit. May God bless your ministry.
Anonymous,
Thanks for your apology. I do completely agree and endorse God's healing. And I do appreciate your perspective. It's just so hard to convey tone on the internet. I may have misread your tone, so please forgive me, but the post felt a bit harsh. I want to foster a safe community here where folks feel okay about sharing their secrets. It's not that you wrote something forbidden; it's just that it came across in a hard manner, though I'm sure that's not your intent.
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